When a Part Takes Over

Hello dear reader,

Do you ever find yourself feeling flooded with feelings? Or overwhelmed by emotions? Or maybe you feel like your propelled by productivity, struggling to slow down and take a second (this one is pretty common for me on the weekends especially).

Well then my dear friend, it’s time I introduce you to a concept I have been learning about this week called Unblending.

Side note - I am uncertain as to how many readers are already familiar with the concept and would be really curious to know! I welcome any responses to this email if you feel like sharing 🙂 

Anywho, the above described experiences can be non-verbal queues from a part(s) that they are looking to be seen, heard, felt and known. And as said parts begin to take rein, yearning for recognition, we often end up blended with the part.

Now what can happen in these moments, especially upon reflection, is that we crack down on ourselves for the actions we we took whilst blended. For example, imagine an individual who temporarily is driven by anger and has some form of outburst or eruption - this experience can often be followed up with feelings of shame or dislike towards themselves, berating themselves for their lack of control.

Be cautious of this. Remember that parts are well intending even when the consequences of their actions might not feel so well intended. And the easiest way to Unblend from a part is to…

1. Recognise the part is wanting some attention.

2. Turn towards the part with curiosity and kindness.

3. Ask the part what it’s looking for, what it’s intention might be, and how you can help it feel comfortable enough to find settle and calm.

It sounds simple, but in practice is quite challenging as the recognition part of this process takes some serious practice - the later we are to notice ourselves blending with a part the harder it is to regard the part from self.

Obviously this is just the tip of the iceberg but I thought it would make for a nice poster so here is the latest addition to the series - feel free to let me know what you think and share any feedback!

Cheers,
James